25. 老公和婆婆对育儿“指手画脚”,咋办？

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用三个步骤改善沟通，让你和家人成为一个有效的养育团队，造福宝宝！



1倾听





前面的课程中，我们说到要让孩子倾诉，而不去要求他们改变，倾听时，不争论，不给建议。其实这一点同样可以应用到老公身上。要创造一个安全的氛围，让对方自由地倾诉，而不用担心被批评、被建议、或被打断。可以问一些问题，让对方知道你是真心感兴趣。如果他们说的都是无关重要的小事，你就继续倾听就好。当他们看出你是真地愿意倾听，就会开启更有意义的话题。



当你真的这样做了，你可能会惊讶的发现，你与老公或者父母公婆，有了前所未有的深层次的沟通。





2帮助对方倾听自己

要多用以“我”开头的句型，代替以“你”开头的句型，就像孩子一样，成人也会受益于具体的正面反馈。如果他们不停地打断你，不要生气地要求他们好好听着。你知道应该怎么办——这时你需要先倾听他们一会儿，直到他们准备好倾听你。



3善待队友

还有一个办法，写日记，记录下来关于那个人你欣赏的地方，感激的事情。



善待养育团队中的其他队员，听起来很像游戏力的技巧：共情、温和和情感理解。为了成为一支优秀的团队，夫妻之间和家庭成员之间需要像父母对待孩子那样，给予同样的关心、爱和尊重。




当你们打造了一支有效的养育团队时，孩子一定会受益匪浅，你也会更加快乐！

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This episode is about three steps to improve communication so you can become an effective parenting team. ：



1Listen





The importance of listening to children is to let them speak without demanding change, arguing, or giving advice. I tried to apply it to my husband.

Create a safe space for the other person to talk without fear of criticism, advice, or interruption. Ask questions that show a genuine interest in their answers. If they talk about unimportant things, just keep listening, When they see you are willing to really hear them, they will open up more meaningful topics.

leadership isn’t giving commands. Real leadership requires taking in everyone’s ideas and opinions, which requires listening.

2

Help the other person listen to you



Use sentences that begin with “I” instead of “You.”Adults benefit from specific positive feedback, just like children do. If they keep interrupting you, don’t demand angrily that they listen. You know what you need to do—listen to them a bit more until they are ready to listen to you.



3

Be kind to your teammates

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